Going Through a Difficult Marriage? St. Monica Can Be Your Prayer Companion

August 27, 2026: If your marriage is going through a difficult season—or if you know a couple dealing with conflict, hurt or misunderstandings—today’s Feast of St. Monica is a good occasion to pause and pray for them.

Monica’s own married life was far from easy. She was married to Patricius, a pagan, while she was a Christian. Historical accounts also describe him as having a difficult temper and being unfaithful to her. Augustine, writing about his parents, speaks of the challenges Monica faced in her marriage. Vatican News likewise describes Patricius as irascible and unfaithful, and notes Monica’s response of patience, waiting and prayer.

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So if you have a spouse who does not share your faith, Monica may be a particularly meaningful saint to turn to. But her story is not only about differences in religion. You may be dealing with a spouse who is difficult to communicate with, a marriage affected by recurring arguments, hurt from the past, a lack of understanding, or a relationship that has gradually grown distant. These are also situations that can be brought to prayer.

Interestingly, Augustine says that Monica’s friends would come to her with their own marital problems and misunderstandings. She had become someone they could turn to because of the way she dealt with difficulties in her own marriage.

That makes St. Monica especially relevant if you are praying for another couple. Perhaps you know friends, relatives or colleagues whose marriage is going through a difficult time. You may not know what to say or how to help. You can still pray for them.

And if the marriage is your own, remember to pray not only for your spouse but also for yourself. Ask for patience without pretending that the hurt does not exist; for the humility to recognise where you may have contributed to the problem; for wisdom in choosing the right words; and for courage to seek help when you need it.

Prayer does not mean ignoring serious problems or accepting abuse. Sometimes loving a marriage also means seeking help from a priest, counsellor or qualified professional and taking practical steps towards healing.

Today, you could place your marriage, or the marriage of someone you know, in the care of St. Monica:

A Prayer for Difficult Marriages

St. Monica, pray for couples who are struggling in their marriages.

Pray for (names/us), that God may guide, strengthen and bless them/us.

Pray that they/we may grow in patience, wisdom, humility and love.

Help them/us to recognise their/our hurts without allowing them to harden their/our hearts.

Give them/us the courage to speak honestly and the grace to listen with compassion.

Guide them/us towards healing, reconciliation and the help they/we may need.

May God bring peace to their/our marriage and lead them/us closer to Him and to one another. Amen.

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By Catholic Connect Reporter